Backbiting (Gheebah)

Assalamu Alaikum,

Scenario 1-
At the bus stop-
Hajira-"Hey Sara, You know what, I have some news
Sara: I can't wait to hear it, spill the beans
Hajira: Remember that girl in our Islamic class, whom we thought was very Deeni(religious) she eloped with some guy.
Sara: What, tough to believe ,do tell me the details, can't wait to tell the others.

Scenario 2-
After the prayers-
Bilal: Hey, Omar, you know what the new boy is a loser. I heard he was a dropout in school.
Omar: Really, then we should not befriend him
Bilal: Yes, we will just ignore him.

Scenario 3-
At the kitty party
Kulthum- Hey,sisters you know what,I just came to know that Reena, the one we thought had a very fair complexion uses some type of foundation to mask her skin colour.

The others-No wonder, we knew something was wrong.

These scenarios were created for illustrative purposes. Let's come to ourselves, do these sound very familiar, arent these scenarios very common?
Catch your tongue and ears. Does this news benefit you in any way? The victim of the gossip is looked down upon, it affects his/her honour.


 Backbiting is a grave sin which is committed knowingly or unknowingly. Sadly, this is taken very lightly. Some people are very particular about their Salah and other acts of Ibadah but they don't guard their tongues.

Allah has warned us about this sin in The Qur'an and Sunnah too.












 Punishment for those who backbite






When anyone comes to gossip ,do not let him/her do so. It is the plan of Satan to deviate you. Do not befriend those who have this habit.

I recently saw a video where a Sheikh mentioned about a dead lady who when she was going to be taken for ghusl(bath after death)was clinging on to her stretcher. This happened many times although the corpse was very light. Finally the Sheikh called the relatives and asked what the mother used to do in life. They hesitated first ,then later mentioned that their mom was very particular about her prayers but she used to go around houses and gossip. Upon asking why the children didn't make her understand, -they said they had tried to make her understand that-  it is wrong but she tried to refuse always saying that it was between her and Allah.

May Allah protect all of us and help us guard our tongues. Ameen.

Always think, before you speak because you can never reverse what you spoke.

Once in a lecture, I heard that people are punished in this world also for backbiting, it may be a financial problem, trouble with kids, children not getting jobs, marriages not getting fixed etc. When there is a delay in our rizq(provision) we must look into ourselves, correct our mistakes and repent to Allah.

If - by any chance you have spoken ill of someone, pray for him/her, if possible ask for their forgiveness and speak good about them.

You may be a victim of backbiting and it really hurts but remember that Allah gives you good deeds when you are dishonoured.






Hope you all have understood what a grave sin backbiting is. .

A reminder to myself first.

Dahlia Mohammed Ali



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